What I am coming to learn is that there is great value in talking about things with others. By doing this we get things off our chest, get to talk things through and get rid of a lot of pent-up anxiety. Worry and anxiety if not processed and dealt with, can build up tension and create more stress if not addressed. I’ve been left feeling pretty miserable at times because I haven’t talked things over with someone. I’ve mulled things over in my head and gone around and around with no way out.
The best type of a chat is having someone who listens. Just being heard in itself can help improve the situation. Sometimes the people listening think they have to give advice, but in reality sometimes it is best not too. The problem solvers of the world may disagree with this, but often in giving advice we may appear to be judging the person or make them wrong for how they feel. Not on purpose, but really what the person wants as they talk things over, is a genuine and compassionate set of ears. That said, getting another person’s perspective can also be a good thing. Especially if the other person isn’t involved in your situation. A fresh set of ears and eyes looking at your problem can make all of the difference and give you a different outlook.
Let’s talk! Sooner rather than later. Phone a friend, family member or even a professional. Choose people you feel comfortable and at ease with.
Make time for each other and be available to listen, with your heart as much as your ears.
Written from my ears and heart for yours.
Iris May 15th August 2022
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