OVER RESPONSIBLE – basically the demands and responsibilities you have in your life exceed your available resources, capacity and sometimes even abilities and experience. In mathematical terms this creates a deficit!
WORKAHOLIC – you are a workaholic and have difficulty creating boundaries around your work life and personal life. You are always thinking about work, even when you are not at work.
PERFECTIONIST – perfection is the only way for you. Everything has to be finished, completed in a certain way or it isn’t worth doing.
OVERCOMITTED – saturating your life with constant commitments. There is always something going on, be it work, family, children, social, community. You are overcommitted!
NEVER RELAX – you don’t know how to relax. Relaxing and sitting still for you are torture! Difficult. You always have to be doing something, ticking off some sort of “to do list”, achieving or fixing something. You don’t know how to just do nothing.
CANNOT SAY NO – you have difficulty saying no. You feel you must be available to everyone. Everyone is dependent on you in some kind of way. If you say no you feel guilty, selfish or worry people will think you are uncaring.
CANNOT ASK FOR HELP – difficulty asking for assistance or help. (see blog #3!) . You feel you don’t have anyone you can ask for help. Asking for help is a sign that you are not copping, don’t know how to do something or you feel vulnerable.
ADDICTED TO ACHIEVING – you are addicted to the feeling of achievement. Adrenalin and cortisol course through your body when you achieve things. You feel a buzz!
FINANCIAL STRESS – you are financially stressed and even possibly overcommitted. This means you work long hours or even multiple jobs to keep afloat.
NO FAMILY – your network of available family members and friends is limited, so in practical and real terms you don’t have anyone or only a few people you can ask for help. Your family may not live close by.
IT’S COMPLICATED! – your family dynamics are complicated and you are not in a position to ask anyone for help. This is more common than people think.
TASK – place a tick beside the ones you feel you are experiencing right now. Now place another tick beside the ones which you feel you are experiencing the most right now. You may end up with a double tick beside all of them, or only some of them. There is no right or wrong answer. The purpose of this task is to see what might be the key challenges for you right now.
Stay tuned for BLOG # 4 Part 3 – some practical ways to initially stop the leak in your tank! Here’s to getting started!
Iris May 9th May 2020
Be Kind to Yourselves - BK2Y 
Iris, so much sound, in-depth knowledge. Amazing.
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Thank you Leeanne. Hopefully there are some practical tips here for everyone. To help them be kinder to themselves. You included x
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